It’s time to make peace with yourself

27 September 2024

It’s time to make peace with yourself

Peace is everyone’s birthright. No matter who you are, who your family is, if you’re rich or poor, what experiences you’ve been through, everyone deserves to feel at peace within themselves.

The Power of Letting Go

If we’re being honest with ourselves, we all have something in our lives that left an imprint on us, something that we regret, stress or worry about. There’s always that feeling of “if only”: If only I was rich enough, if only I had a healthy relationship, if only that never happened to me, if only I stayed at home that night, if only I had my dream house, then…

The truth is, there will always be something standing between you and your peace—if you let it. Only when we make peace with ourselves can we truly experience peace in the outside world. This includes building harmonious and healthy relationships, manifesting the career or financial success you seek, and nurturing physical, mental, and spiritual health.

One thing we must understand is that there are some things that we cannot control, such as other people’s reactions or actions, but what we can control is how we respond to it. Making peace with yourself is a lifelong journey, and I am going to be honest and say that it’s not for the weak. Facing your traumas, your negative thoughts, your pain, what you did, what others did to you? That takes so much courage. If you’re ready to embark on this journey, remember: here, there are no victims, and no one else is to blame for your unhappiness. This journey is about you.

Ways to find inner peace

Making peace with yourself is not easy, and it might look different for everyone. Some common ways that people find peace are:

Self-acceptance: Embracing and accepting what happened in the past. Understand that mistakes are a part of life, and they don’t define you.
Forgiveness: Let go of guilt and forgive yourself for past mistakes. Holding onto regrets can prevent you from moving forward.
Set Healthy Boundaries: Learn to say no and protect your energy. Try to work out conflictual situations throughout constructive and assertive communication. Don’t avoid communication but try to make your needs and expectations clearly and respectfully stated to the other person(s). Limit situations that cause you stress or inadequacy to the necessary and obligatory ones. Prepare yourself for them and try to do your best without pressuring yourself.
Positive Self-Talk: Challenge your inner critic and replace negative thoughts with affirming, compassionate ones. Speak to yourself like you would to a friend. Look for the positive and constructive actions, words or situations you were involved in. This goes for both yourself and the others 🙂
Seek Support: It’s okay to ask for help. Whether from friends, family, and / or a therapist, talking to others can offer perspective and comfort.

These are just a few of the many actions that are available for you at any time. Making peace with yourself is a deeply personal and transformative process, one that takes time, effort, and a willingness to confront both your past and present. It is also important to create a positive and constructive expectation of the future. And yes, we all have expectations. 🙂 They are built in our brains through evolution and that’s perfectly ok. We need to be aware of them and to reframe them in a constructive way in case they create frustration, pain, anger or suffering.

What is this blog about?

This blog is designed to be a supportive space for those on that journey, offering insights, tools, and guidance on topics like self-acceptance, boundaries, healing, and personal growth. Through weekly articles on themes like therapy methods (CBT, EMDR), relationships, burn out, attachment styles, traumas, mindfulness, and more, you’ll find resources to help you better understand yourself and the world around you. Remember, peace is not something you have to search for alone—this community is here to support you every step of the way.

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